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Why do we eat!…and eat…and eat!

The other day my daughter and I were talking about her friends.  She says that most of the time, she has to tell her friends to eat, that it’s okay to eat, or that they need to eat.  Her friends don’t understand why she is seemingly obsessed with food and eating.  She thinks this is funny, because to her, they are obsessed with not eating.

Let me explain.  Because I totally get it and why they have opposing views about food.  It’s how she was raised.  It’s how I was raised.  Our family life centers around food.  Okay, well, maybe it doesn’t center around food exactly, but food it so much intertwined with what we do–no matter what it is.

For instance, if one of us is getting a headache, it’s because “you need to eat.”  If we’re celebrating a birthday, it’s “what do you want for your birthday supper?”  If someone wins something, graduates from something, or gets a raise, we go out to eat. If someone is sad or had something bad happen to them, we go get ice cream.  When it’s bedtime and anyone is having trouble sleeping, it’s “go get a little something to eat so you can sleep better.”  When we come home from school or work, it’s “have an after-school snack” or a “little something before supper.” 

When we’re getting ready to go shopping or know we’re going to be out for more than an hour, it’s “better eat something before we leave the house.”  If we have to do some housework or chores for any length of time, it’s “let’s eat something before we start.”  (All right, that one might just be pure procrastination, but we choose food as the means to which to procrastinate.)  For Christmas, I often bake things to give out as presents.  I use to spend days making up goodies to box up and give to my siblings and their families, and they always looked forward to that box! 

My son’s friends are dumbfounded whenever they come over because I always make food a part of their visit.  Once, my son had a couple of friends over and I had said I would barbecue some hot dogs for them.  I’m sure they thought there might be some chips and something to drink along with those hot dogs.  But I know they weren’t expecting the corn-on-the-cob, baked beans, crudites  and dip, homemade cookies, and cucumber salad to be spread out on the table, too! 

Another time, his best friend was coming over to spend the day, so I wanted to make sure they had plenty to eat.  I made homemade pizza for lunch, rice crispy treats for a snack, and fed them the enchiladas and rice I had made the day before for supper — before I gave them some cake and ice cream.  I even made his friend take home some cake. 

Food is love.  It’s how we show our love, our emotion, our togetherness.  I have many happy memories of going down to the local Sonic when the kids were younger and just sitting there in the car, our feet hanging out the window, listening to the music Sonic always plays while sipping a yummy ice cream drink and eating corn dogs.  The summer winds would usually be blowing, and we’d laugh and talk while just enjoying the weather, the casualness of the day, and our precious time together.  The kids can recall those same memories.   Many times, I would pick the kids up from grade school for lunch (they hated eating in the school cafeteria because it was always so noisy) and drive to the park where we would pop the back of our van open and sit there eating a lunch of fried chicken, mashed potatoes, and corn (Grandy’s, why did you ever leave town?!  We loved your food!).  The trees were so big and would blow in the wind, while people walked their dogs or parent’s were hanging out with their young ones by the swing set and the slide. 

So, to my daughter, getting together with your friends is a very good reason to eat and to show your appreciation for each other and to share your love for one another.  I mean, why not?  We’re not gluttons about it, and none of us is obese. We don’t abuse food or how we eat it.  We use it as a part of our celebration of life and living.  It makes us feel grounded and centered and all “homey.” 

Maybe that is why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday of the year.  Actually, we make food a big deal at every holiday!

My daughter’s friends asked her why she is always telling them “eat!”  She said, “Because it’s what we do in my family!”


Busy, busy, busy!

This is not going to be one of my usual posts with lots of pictures and things to look at.  Because I am just super busy lately!  There is so much going on, and I barely have time to eat or sleep.  Okay, not true.  I always have time to eat.

What I really mean is I’ve been planting flowers, my son is graduating, and… I finally got a new job!  And then, of course, there’s all the little everyday stuff to get done or find a place to fit it all in. 

But back to the “I got a new job” part.  And the “finally” part.  You may not have known it, but I have been without a full-time permanent job for the last 21 months.  Yes, it’s true.  I got laid-off my old job in August of 2009 and have been doing freelance work since then.  It’s been really hard making ends meet, but God really was watching over me and my children and we made it through.  {That doesn’t sound right to say that, though.  Because it almost implies that God is picky about who he helps.  (My mother use to always tell us that God helps those who help themselves.)} I feel very fortunate and blessed to have finally found this job and the place where I’m suppose to be right now.  I can’t even begin to tell you how many interviews I went on (although, those were not that easy to get in this economy) and how many applications I filled out during this time. 

And for every job I went on, there were so many other applicants wanting the same positions.  It was just crazy!  Even the minimum wage jobs, which everyone was so desperate for — no matter how little it paid. ( A little of something is better than a lot of nothing!)  So many with families to feed and house/rent payments to make.  It can get really hard to keep your spirits up in times like that.  But, like a lot of people, I never gave up. 

So, I need to get my sleep now, because I have a steady job to go to once again, people!  But, I’m not giving up my blogging, because I love it too much.  And I love all the readers who read and comment and connect with me.  I just don’t want to give up all the neat and cool people I have met on here.  And I still have so much more to say and to share and to learn.  I’m just running a little late on things, but will get back in the groove as soon as I get a few things out of my way and get right back on track. 

Plus, I want to get out and use my camera more!  And I want to share all those photos with you, too!  Stay tuned and have a great week. Now, I have a son to go see get his high school diploma!


Moving Through Life.

The weather has started getting colder where I live. Temperature drops into the 40’s nightly. Blankets get pulled a little tighter at night. Homemade soups starts sounding good for supper.

I’ve been watching the trees closely.  I’m wanting to make sure I capture those colorful leaves as they turn for fall.  It’s my favorite time of year, and I look forward to so many things about it. 

I especially like the way it makes me want to slow down and cozy up at home.  I probably watch the most T.V. during this time of year–which isn’t much for someone who is not all that keen on T.V. time.  But I like curling up on the couch with a blanket on a Saturday afternoon and finding a good movie that I can escape into till I doze off while the warm sun casts a glow through my living room window. 

There’s also Halloween.  I was never big into “scary” and still am not, but there is one seasonal activity I enjoy.  On Halloween night, there is a neighborhood close to where I grew up and went to school that does Halloween better than anybody I know or anything I have ever seen.  They go all out and decorate to all kinds of levels.  It’s a whole show, really.  Several blocks participate and it’s so much fun to walk the streets along with all the other people who attend.  I have some pics from last year that I’ll try to put up before Halloween.  Looking forward to that. 

Parking is crazy, but it’s so worth it.  We always park several blocks away, having learned from experience that it’s not worth the trouble of worrying about whether or not you’re going to hit a small child crossing the street or getting stuck in the jam that always happens as you are trying to leave the area. 

And let’s not forget Thanksgiving will be coming next month.  I live for this holiday!  It is my favorite holiday of all.  Not just because of the food, but because my children help prepare the food with me and we get to spend so much time together talking and laughing and just being together.  It’s definitely a great time for our little family. 

Schools in full swing now.  Conferences have happened and talks have been given.  Everybody does their evening homework while waiting for supper and the smells waft through the house. 

Walks outdoors are more enjoyable when the weather has cooled down from the hot summer days of a few weeks ago.  Drives in the afternoon make me sleepy and calm when the windows are rolled down and the air blows through my hair.  Dogs and kids have their heads stuck out the car windows as their owners and parents drive by me.  I want to do the same. 

Needing to get outside in the backyard and start cleaning up plants and vines so it won’t be so hard to get the yard ready for the cold weather.  So many trees that will scatter their leaves all in my yard making a full-days work, sometimes two, of raking and bagging.  Always have to be quick about getting that chore done or the days will get too cold to want to be outside working.  Runny noses and gloves are not fun to try to deal with when you’re working. 

Hoodies are the main attire around the house and to the grocery store.  Sweatshirts with school logos are being pulled out of drawers.  Slipper socks and house slippers take the place of flip-flops. 

Fall may have just begun, but around here we are welcoming it in like an old friend that we’ve waited all summer to see.  And we’re hoping it can stay a while so we can enjoy its company. 

This familiar time of the year when the seasons change always make me more contemplative of life and all that goes on around me. I feel especially so now that one of my sisters has just come out of a fairly easy surgery and my father’s health seems to be getting worse.  I wonder what lies ahead for me as the weeks go by, with my work and with my personal life.  My thoughts are disconnected sometimes, and run through my head constantly as I try to take some time to do nothing but walk and enjoy the day.  Because I don’t want to linger on anything too long if it’s even got the possibility of being slightly negative and to take me away from the time of the year I love the most. 

It’s just life stuff, anyway.  And all I can do is keep moving through it as it happens. 

The sun is making leaf shadows on my curtain.  It’s doing that flickering dance it does when the wind is blowing and moving them all around on the branches.  Sometimes, in the sun, they look like shimmering jewels.